Kevin's Dead Cat

After surgery sliced off an entire tumor and 1/3 of my tongue, plus six weeks of radiation therapy, I've been re-learning how to eat, drink, and talk with my newly re-constructed tongue and coping with side effects. But the cancer came back and I don't know what's going to happen next.

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Wednesday, October 19, 2005

Laura's resting place

On September 21st, 2005, Laura was buried in Kaneohe, Hawaii at Hawaiian Memorial Park. I haven't had the strength to post this earlier, not that I really feel that I have it now, but I can't leave it undone. One of her last wishes was to be buried here, with her grandparents. The site is a place of natural beauty, and Laura felt a strong connection to it. The two photos here are of the view from her graveside. When it rains, the mountains are filled with waterfalls. If any of you visit, please let me know.



Anonymous Anonymous said...

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October 19, 2005 12:33 PM  
Blogger Dave Bullock / eecue said...

I just want to let you know that your and Laura's story has deeply touched many people including myself and I want you to know that our hearts go out to you in your time of sorrow. Remember that Laura will always be alive in your heart and memory.

[also you should turn of anonymous comments]

October 19, 2005 1:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi. I want to hurry and get in my own anon comment before you, rightly so, turn off this option(is that an impotency form letter! What a pathetic human being).

Anyway, I, too, have been reading Laura's courageous battle and was blown away by her strength, and her wisdom. My heart truly ache's for your enormous loss.

Thank you so much for the update and please know, you are in my prayers.

All my best to you,

October 20, 2005 6:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Absolutely beautiful, James. A magical resting place for Laura. We think of you often, feel free to contact us soon.

Love ,

Paloma & John

October 21, 2005 9:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have been there and it is a beautiful place. Thank you for your update. I often think of Laura. Take Care.

October 22, 2005 1:10 AM  
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October 25, 2005 7:01 PM  
Blogger dolce said...


Thank you so much for including these photos and this entry. I've thought of Laura daily, and I've been missing her so much. Seeing where she is makes it feel like she's closer. Please know you're in my thoughts and prayers.


October 25, 2005 7:02 PM  
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October 25, 2005 7:02 PM  
Blogger Nanette said...

Thank you for posting those beautiful pictures. My thoughts are with you.

October 26, 2005 9:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear James,

Hi, my name is Jolene. I live in Torrance, California and am a friend of Angel's. I am visiting my family in Hawaii during this X-mas vacation and I wanted you to know that I went to visit Laura yesterday along with my 16 year old son Jordan.

We spent over an hour looking for Laura's resting spot so we could give our "ALOHAS" to her and leave some flowers for her. I called Angel and he gave me directions...needless to say, we actually got there.

Although his directions to Laura's gravesite itself was "if-y" we finally managed to located it with the help of one of the workers. You couldn't be more right about her final resting spot, it is truly beautiful and the view around her is magnificent.

Sending our ALOHAS to you and Laura from Hawaii.

December 24, 2005 7:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

such a beautiful spot. I am glad to know she is there. I think of her often and wish I had gotten to know her. She will be remembered and her memory shared.

February 25, 2006 7:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

James, I stumbled upon your wife's blog when researching tongue cancer awhile ago. (A good friend of mine was diagnosed and is still being treated.) I was drawn into her site because of her wit, intelligence and strength. She came across as a rather remarkable women. She was able to share her feelings and experience and this has helped me to gain some perspective of what my friend may be going through. I offer you my deepest sympathy. Katrinka Poraskova

November 22, 2006 5:02 AM  
Blogger Korean Cuisine said...

I came across your site while googling Dr. Keith Blackwell's name. He is my surgeon and I will be undergoing surgery to remove a cancerous tumor in my face next week. I'm just beginning the journey and wanted to thank you for this detailed site. Laura sounds like an amazing woman and her strength was evident. God rest her soul.

November 25, 2008 3:36 PM  
Anonymous Kristopher Sandoval said...


It feels very weird calling you by your name, "James". I don't know you. I didn't fight this battle with you or Laura. I actually happened upon this blog while doing a completely irrelevant google search for a sketch comedy group. I almost x'd out of the window, but something stopped me. I read the blog,'s amazing.

I don't know what else I can say. The story in here, the wisdom Laura had, your...strength, I guess. This happenstance, this divine direction of chance...well, anyhow, I wish you the best. I hope you've healed from this, and I hope you're happy.

As if any of that makes sense.

March 25, 2012 11:42 PM  

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